How to ‘F’ Your Way to a Man’s Heart

by Dr. Ish Major

No, no, no…it’s not what you think! Well…maybe it is. Ok, here it is ladies. I’m gonna give you what may be the easiest to understand most sure fire way to make your lasting mark on the heart of any man you desire. Men are simple! I repeat…men are simple! There are only four simple things you will ever need to do in life to find, get, and keep any man you want! I call them the four ‘F’s. Flirt. Feed. Fornicate. Flee. Flirt with him. Feed him (his belly or his ego). ‘F’…umm…fornicate with him (if you choose). Then run away. Flee. Simple!

Let’s start with flirting. Simply put ladies, you must turn him on! Stimulating intellectual conversation is all well and good and may in time be the thing that really connects the two of you but you will never get to that point if he is not attracted to what he first sees. Men do not want to see your brain naked! It’s the other parts we are first interested in. A man’s main way of gathering information is through his eyes. So ladies, you must do your best to first stimulate him visually! One of the things men love about women is their attention to detail. So ladies, do that. Pay attention to the finer details of you. Wear colors that flatter you! Your skin tone, your hair-color, you eyes, your shade of lipstick should all fit together in a nice package. Men notice this! Wear clothes that flatter you and you alone! Simply put, everything is not for everybody. Take an honest evaluation of where you are physically and wear clothes that will accentuate your positives and detract from anything you feel is a negative. Wear clothes that hug you in the right places and are loose where they need to be. Choose outfits that show everything you want seen and hide whatever you don’t. And heels are a must! I’m sorry, I know that for some of you heels aren’t a feasible option for different reasons. I’m just being honest. If you put identically hot twin sisters side-by-side and have one wearing 4 inch open toe heels and the other wearing ballerina shoes I can guarantee you that a man will approach the one in heels nine times out of ten times. Heels elongate your legs. Heels give you an air of confidence. Heels…elevate…things. They add an extra femininity that drives men wild!

Next up. Feed him! Have you ever heard that old saying ‘the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’? Well in part that’s true. A man needs to know that day in and day out you will be able to take care of him. Being fed is a critical part of a man’s care package. Eating is a critical part of most men’s days. It makes him feel full. It makes him feel satisfied. It’s makes him feel gratified after a long day. If you’re the one helping with that it will bond you to him quite strongly. By no means am I saying that you need to slave away the day in a hot kitchen but in some way you need to be able to take credit for the main meal he’s eating. Pick the type of food. Pick the restaurant. Pick the wine. Pick the condiment. Something. Anything. Just be a part of that equation. After you feed his stomach your gonna have to feed his ego! I know, I know for some of you that may seem a bit condescending. A bit beneath you. You’re probably right. However, I’m just telling you what works. If a man is what you want then this is gonna have to be a part of what you do. Let him know how great you think he is. How important you think his job is. How much you like his hair, his eyes, his smile, his style, his car, his home, his after-shave lotion…whatever! Basically you want to communicate to him why it is you feel he is so simply awesome! That lets men know that you appreciate them and are genuinely excited to be around them. As guys, we need to hear that. Ladies, this is one area where men generally agree that it’s ok for you to fake it!

Now we’re getting down to the nitty-gritty. Fornication! Sex! Sex! Sex! It’s what men want! Now I know some women out there have chosen to be celibate for a different number of reasons. Religious beliefs. Spiritual backgrounds. Health concerns. I am by no means advising you to alter your beliefs or your behavior. However, I am reminding you that these are men your are dealing with. Men want sex. Men will have sex. If not with you, it will be with someone else. Believe that! So ladies, if this is not a road you’re currently willing to travel then you’re gonna need to be up front about that so that you both can find a more suitable travel companion. For you ladies who are willing and able to go there; then go there you must! One word here ladies. Energy! Zest! Verve! (Ok three words). Men believe any job worth doing is worth doing right. Sex is no different. Again, we need to feel like your excited to be there. I’m not saying we need you doing double back flips off of the headboard and landing in a split…but we do need high energy. We get excited when we think you’re excited! It’s why men love cheerleaders so much…team spirit! 2! 4! 6! 8! Who do we appreciate? Men!

Lastly ladies, after all those deeds are done. You must leave. Wait! Hold on! It’s not what you think. It’s counter-intuitive logic. This is a top-secret peak into a man’s mind here. Men hate to feel stuck. Men hate to feel trapped. Men hate to feel obligated. Do you want to guarantee that he will call back? Do you want to guarantee that he will not be able to stop thinking about you? After an amazing night of flirting, feeding, and fornicating his world…you must leave. (Or at least give the appearance that you are ready and willing to leave) After such a great evening or evenings men will feel obligated to have you stay; as well they should. It’s the right thing to do. However, these are men you’re dealing with here and just because it’s the right thing to do doesn’t mean he’s going to do it! Did any of you ever see that ‘Sex in the City’ episode when Aidan kept asking Carrie for ‘space’. Remember what happened the second she decided to give it to him? He didn’t want it anymore! See? Counter-intuitive logic. Be willing to give a man what he thinks he wants and he will absolutely not want it! Gather your things and walk out his door and I guarantee he will be on your phone before you make it out of the driveway! He’ll invite you back and won’t be able to stand the thought of you leaving! Ask any guy and if he’s honest he’ll tell you this is true. Trust me on this one ladies.

Well, I’ve given you four extremely simple but extremely powerful weapons to use as you hunt for ‘Mr. Right’. As with any good hunt ladies, you must carefully study your prey. You must know his tendencies; how he will react when approached. How he will react when cornered. Be steady. Keep it simple. But remember you are dealing with a man…and we are a totally different kind of animal. Happy hunting!

About the Author
Ish Major attended graduate school and medical school at the University of South Carolina. He completed his psychiatric residency and child/adolescent fellowship with the Palmetto Health Alliance and is an attending psychiatrist at a private in-patient hospital facility in Greenville, SC.
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